is a basic unit of life design.
- You chose a piece of your dream life and decide that it's what you’re going
to do first. That piece will help the rest of your dream come true.
- A true goal is one that will "hold still" and let you catch
1. It lives up to two basic rules;
a) A goal is concrete, it's a matter of facts, not feelings.
It's something you can look at, touch, and show to other people....
b) You can get your goal by a specific date. A target.
- How do you zero in on the right "target" for you??
TOUCHSTONE and ROLE MODEL
- Your "touchstone" is the emotional core of your goal; what
you want and need from it, what you love best about it, it's the sweet
center of that goal for you e.g.. fame, money, love.
- Your "role model" is someone you'd like to be, someone who's actually
done what you'd like to do-- or the closest thing to it.
- You probably already have at least one role model. Whom do you particularly
admire?? Whose life and achievements do you covet?
- Role models are not only good for goal definition, they are good for
inspiration, encouragement, and practical guidance. (If anyone on planet
Earth has done what you want to do, that means you can do it too.)
- Put that person's picture on the wall, read about that person's achievement,
and find out about how they did it!! You might get some ideas for yourself...
- You are going to have to work hard to "hit your target", so it must be one
that you really want, not one that you don't want!!
- If you find that your "target" is not what you really want.... what do
you do? panic? NO!! just remember that no goal is carved in stone
or written in blood..
- If your "target" is something you really don't want, you probably won't
be any good at it anyway, and it will only give you indigestion, not rewards!!
CHOOSING A TARGET
- If you find that your first goal isn't one that "serves" you, you will still
have gained something precious; the experience of making real progress towards
a goal and the practical skills for doing it..
HOW TO CHOOSE A TARGET
Depends on who you are and where you are in life right now..... Design
problems: Too broad, too vague, too distant, or no goal at all, or too many
- That first target will lead you toward the next element of your dream, and
the next,, and the next....
- BUT,, If you're really in love with a goal and you're sure it's impossible,
don't get bitter about "what might have been" and consider your life wasted.
Ask yourself, what is the touchstone? why do I want it?
- Now, take that "touchstone" and design your goal around it!!
- Why are we repeating this exercise?? To see if our "ideals" have changed;
if they have, think about and/ or discuss why
EXERCISE I. CREATE AN ENVIRONMENT FOR YOUR BEST SELF
*Remember, make your environment fit you
*Make it just perfect for your "ideal self"
*How would you shape time in your "ideal environment"?
*What is your "ideal day" in your new environment?
EXERCISE II FANTASY ANALYSIS:
- In each of the three categories, first, list the things that are absolutely
essential. Second, list elements that are optional, but still very desirable.
Third, list the elements that are "frills"--- they would be nice, but you
could do without them and never be really unhappy.
EXERCISE III: TOUCHSTONE & ROLE MODEL:
- Have people fill in their exercise sheets [use this as example] with their
DREAM: movie or TV star
TOUCHSTONE: glamour and publicity
ROLE MODEL: Opra
TARGET: my face in every poster store
- This process should give you a "target" that passes the second test for
qoals; distinguishing real dreams from passing fancies. Could you "handle"
the dream if you were really "there" ?
- Try living it in your imagination.... How does it feel?
- Love it? Hate it? If you don't like it, change the target!! It is important
to choose what you want, not what you think is expected of you..
EXERCISE III worksheet;
- Would you know how to live with this?
EXERCISE IV: Look at your "fantasy day" and ask yourself, ‘what is the highest-priority
item that is missing from my life right now?’
- If you can give a clear answer to that question, you’ve got your first "target".
- If more than one piece of your dream is missing, decide which one you can
get most quickly, cheaply and easily.
- That is where you’ll start, because the object is to get you on your path
without more delay!!
Source:This program is a revision of Exercises used in the book by Barbara
Sher, "LIVE THE LIFE YOU LOVE in Ten Easy Step-by Step Lessons"